Love: Fabulous in February

The wonderful lady behind A Working Mom’s Closet has posted a challenge… to say three positive things about yourself every Monday in Feburary. The goal is to hold off winter blues and get a little positivity and self love happening around the blogosphere. At first this may not sound like a challenge at all, but most of us grew up in a culture where it’s not nice to say nice things about yourself. So, at the risk of sounding like an egomaniac, and defying culture norms, here are my first three things:

1. I love that I’m tall

I can see over people and things, my students never complain that they can’t see me when I interpret, and I can reach the top shelf of stores all by myself. I get comments pretty much every week about why tall girls shouldn’t wear heels (“aren’t you tall enough??”) but heels make me feel sexy and while my height might be a problem for other people, it’s never been for me.

2. I love my hair

I’ve put my hair through the wringer (and the bleacher, the flat ironer, and the hairdryer) and it still loves me back and behaves well. It’s been every color of the rainbow and changes nearly as often as my moods, but in a world where plain black clothes are the norm, hair is my little indulgence in self-expression.

3. I love my eyes

My eyes look just like my dad’s, the same dark brown and the same long lashes (and those lashes got me a modeling gig with Sebastian Trucco when I was younger!). For years, Brown Eyed Girl has been my favorite song, and while I played around with colored contacts for a bit, I just don’t feel right when brown eyes aren’t looking back at me in the mirror.

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So that’s it, there are my three positive things put out into the universe. Post your own at A Working Mom’s Closet!

Lose: Celebrity Blonde Gone Wrong

If you’ve been reading Lust, Love, Lose for awhile, you know a good blonde is hard to come by. Wither it’s roots, brassiness, or just a distinct lack of toner, there’s a thousand ways to gone wrong and so very few to get it right. So I can almost forgive these celebrities for their peroxide atrocities, until I realize they have well paid stylists who let them out of the house like this. Gathered just for you, a list of the top 7 celebrity blonde fails of all time.

Donatella Versace

 

Emma Stone

Drew Barrymore

Amy Winehouse

Kim Kardashian

Lindsay Lohan

Kimora Simmons

The moral of the story? All the money in the world can’t buy you the underlying skin tone, facial features, or secret something it takes to turn Norma Jeane into Marilyn.

What do you think? What are your rules for pushing the boundaries of your genetic makeup for the sake of fashion? And how do you know when (if?) you’ve gone too far?

Love: 100 Words on Life

I’ve lived a very, very long time. At least it feels like it, though those with more than a quarter century under their belts might not agree with me. Be that as it may, I still feel as though I have something to contribute to the greater knowledge of fashion, confidence and life lessons. Here, my manifesto in exactly 100 words. Feel inspired? Write your own 100 words and I’ll link it here!

When you feel like shit, put on mascara – at least it will look dramatic if you cry

Pencil skirts will forever be sexy…

…so will red lipstick

Men and women can’t ever be just friends, unless the man is gay

Garter belts are more comfortable than pantyhose, and a whole lot sexier

If you can laugh at yourself, no one can have power over you

Confidence is enticing, so are high heels

Blondes really do have more fun

It’s better to like who you are than to care if anyone else does

Cutting your hair will change your life

Want to read more? Check out these fabulous bloggers who have written their own 100 words on life:

• Dear Winnie
• I’m Freestyling
• The Vintalogist
• Emily’s Fashion Finds
• Blah Blah Becky
• Rosco Valentine
• Butterfly Dreamer
• WobiSobi
• Let Them Eat Kate
• So What if I Like Pretty Things
• Le Mahogany Fashionista
• Sugar and Spice

Lust: Bleach London

I have a penchant for crazy hair, probably because (due to my professional job) I can’t have it, so when I ran across Bleach Hair Salon at Wah Nails I spent hours combing through the pages, drooling over the dye candy. Dip dyes, bleach outs, every color of the rainbow: this salon has influences runways and fashion magazines around the world and made an underground phenomenon explode. Don’t believe me? Take a look…

 

Love: Products for Blonde Hair that Really Work

In case you can’t tell by now, one of my biggest fashion pet peeves is stringy, nasty, over-processed blonde hair – mostly because there’s just no need for it! A few amazing products will keep your blonde hair gorgeous and feeling great no matter how much 20 volume bleach your hairstylist says you need. Even better, not a single one of these products retails for over $10!

Without a doubt, the GOD of bleach blonde products is Clairol Shimmer Lights ($7). It’s not expensive, smells amazing, and works wonders at keeping brassy orange tones at bay. Use it once a week in place of regular shampoo (rinse, lather, repeat and let the second wash sit 3-5 minutes) and you’ll see the difference as soon as you step out of the shower. Fair warning though: it does create a purple murder scene in your bathtub.

Garnier Fructis 3-Minute Undo ($6) is a miracle for dry hair – I use it once a week when I do my Shimmer Lights and let it sit 3-5 minutes (can you tell it’s my longest shower of the week?). If you’ve got a serious case of the dries, you can wet your head, slather it on, wrap your head in saran wrap and let it sit for 30 minutes before rinsing. You can also snag those great little bottles of conditioner that come with box dye from your friends, because you would never box dye blonde, right? Right??

When it comes to an everyday purple shampoo, I’m not entirely convinced that all products aren’t created equal, but I’ve had good luck with John Frieda Sheer Blonde Color Renew Tone-Restoring Shampoo and Conditioner ($8/each). I pick it up whenever Ulta has a sale and use it between Shimmer Lights and Garnier treatments. If you’re using Shimmer Lights once a week, you can probably get away with about any shampoo in between as long as it doesn’t have a red or yellow dye in it (some do to make the shampoo pretty, ex: Bath and Body Works in Sweet Pea).

That’s really about it, everything I use to keep my blonde hair in shape between bleaches. Inexpensive, easy to use, and leaving no excuse for nasty burn-out blonde ever again.

Looking at going blonde? Check out this post for details!

How To: Go Blonde

Ever since I changed my hair, I run into someone at least once a week who looks in astonishment, reaches over to feel my hair that still feels like hair and asks “how did you do that??” Here’s the thing: there is no magical answer to blonde except to find an expert stylist who knows what he or she is doing and can work with you to get the color you want with a routine that fits your life and budget.

This is the color I was when I sat in Jayme’s hair and decided I wanted to be Marilyn Monroe blonde, a natural medium brown with some red undertones that I had put in with box dye:

When I went in to the salon that day, I thought it would be a one and done, I fully expected to walk out a blonde bombshell. Little did I know that going blonde (and still having hair at the end of it) is a time consuming process.

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One: find an expert stylist and ask to see pictures of their work, ask if they have experience lightening people to blonde, bring in pictures of what you want, and work together to come up with steps and a timeline you can both agree on.

Two: start with highlights, increasing the amount of hair you highlight each time. With Jayme, I started at about 20% highlights, then around 40%, then 60%, then 80%: you can see my process in these pictures:

Three: time for a full bleach blonde! The best color comes from a two-step process: first bleaching and then toning. Until the toner goes on, your hair will be a strange orange-yellow color, take the Hitchhiker’s Guide approach and don’t panic! Plan to make this appointment an all-day event: my process took about four hours to go from ultra-highlighted brunette to full-on blonde.

Four: take better care of your hair than you ever have. I use Garnier Fructis Three-Minute Undo once a week and a hot oil treatment once a month. I also limit the amount of heat tools I use on my hair and go for trims once a month to keep the ends healthy.

With some careful planning and a great stylist, even the darkest brunettes can find a blonde that works for them. Here’s my end result, a level 9 blonde:

Have any questions about going blonde? Want to share your experiences? Post in the comments below!

Lose: Dark Roots

Lose: Roots by jennaw featuring acrylic jewelry

I’m posting this fully aware that I’ll probably get some slack from the fashion gods but the dark roots trend is something I just can’t get behind. No matter who it’s on or how gorgeous the celeb, it just looks sloppy, lazy, and a little hooker-esque.

Being a bleach blonde myself (with a dark natural color), I know how time-consuming and expensive the upkeep can be, but if you’re going to make the commitment, go all the way! Between purple shampoos, volumizing mousse, round brushes and even hair mascara, there’s more than enough techniques available to keep your roots hidden in between colorings and you can work with your stylist to figure out a price package (stylists love blondes since we have to come in so often!). When my roots get bad again, maybe I’ll post a how-to blog on how to hide ’em.

Until then, check out more blondes behaving badly after the break.

Love: Shop My Closet

I had such an itch to shop today, what with it being Cyber Monday and all! But, for once, I managed to resist BOTH Black Friday and it’s wickedly tempting Cyber counterpart (amazing, right?). How did I do it? I took the advice we all hear but never heed – I shopped my closet.

Sometimes the best thing a recession goddess can do is dig through what she already has. I went through mine and found these great pieces (a black turtle neck and a pencil skirt I bought at Old Navy ages ago) that worked in place of buying a new LBD. The boots were an after-season sale purchase from Marshall’s last year and the necklace came from when I sold Cookie Lee.

Over the next few weeks, I’m hoping to write a series of posts to inspire us all to look at what we have in unique ways. What have you reinvented in your wardrobe? Do you find moving the pieces around helps you find new combinations, or do you have other ways to get inspired?